A few responses from the recent article on how kids with an uncoachable spirit really do miss out on skill development, friendships, and coaches attention:
Another great article. To me the real question is the age. We need to remember this is a 10 year old. That is really young still.
Does winning at that age matter? Most 10 year olds are not even in the majors of their Little League yet. But I might see this a little
Different than others because I hate to see a talent be ruined by a bad attitude. I would enjoy coaching a kid like this, not for winning, because that is not important, but for the challenge of salvaging this child’s possible career or at least prolonged playing time in a game
I hope he is enjoying. I feel a 10 year old will listen if you coach him in a way that he can relate to. Telling this kid to shape up or he is out will not work with most kids. There is a reason he has this attitude. (Parents or some kind of mental situation somewhere in his life).
Coach the kid like you really care and make him understand where a good attitude is on the importance scale for being a good athlete.
Let him also know this attitude, if kept up, could cut into his playing time. These types of kids are coachable still.
Heck it worked for the Bad News Bears and they did not even have a good coach. (Kidding, bad example)
Tom- I guess all coaches would like to coach on a team that everybody got along and they won their
share of games. Unfortunately you play the cards that were dealt to you. If you could take that uncoachable kid and turn him around by changing whatever it took to give him a better attitude and
respect for the game and his teammates how great would that be. That’s what coaching kids should be about.
Ok, how about this one…
Parents, please be careful with the consequences that you give to your children for violating a family rule, getting in trouble at school…etc. Think through your threats before blurting them out, and be careful that consequences are not given in a moment of frustration or anger. This usually results in the attempt to manipulate or control.
Too many times the consequence handed out involves other kids too. What I am alluding to is not allowing your kid to play in a Saturday youth game because his room was messy, or he didn’t eat his Brussel sprouts. By doing this you affect the other kids on the team, their families, the other team…etc. I have seen teams have to forfeit for lack of players.
I have seen kids miss going to a friend’s birthday party because of fighting with siblings. How sad is that for the birthday boy and his celebration?
Remember his messy room is his issue, not his teammates’.
Also, public humiliation and shame is a bad idea!
How about consequences that don’t involve others, like cleaning his room and then his sisters room too, mowing the lawn, cooking dinner with a double helping of Brussel sprouts and then doing the dishes …etc.
Try to make the consequence fit and relate to the violation.